Blending two families together proved to be little like mixing oil and water.
We stumbled and we fell often. We hurt one another more than we loved each other sometime.
I was about 12 years old and my dad was remarried. I liked my step-mom just fine until we all started trying to live under one roof. I went from having a room of my own to sharing my room with a new sister. It was great when we shared clothes before the marriage, not so much everyday after. We were all new to this and none of us really knew how to navigate. I remember fusses and fights. Tears and shouting. At the end of it all, we each needed to offer forgiveness and we each needed forgiveness.
“Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you.” Col. 3:13a
Make allowance for each other faults.
WOW.
Those words just keep resonating in my mind today. A few year’s back I read an article by Lysa TerKeurst that talked about predetermining our responses to certain situations. She wasn’t discussing forgiveness per say but I feel like it applies. If I determine in my mind today that I will make allowance for other’s faults then I will be in a better place to offer forgiveness to anyone who offends me.
Let’s do that today. Let’s predetermine that we will be women who forgive!
Looking back on all the years that I held grudges against my family members I know that I missed valuable opportunities to offer forgiveness. As an adult child of a blended family, I determined for myself that I would let go of old hurts to make room for new joy. Rather than stewing over things I felt were hurtful I choose to remind myself that each one of us needs forgiveness. Including myself.
“Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” Colossians 3:13
Holding tight to hurt only brings more hurt.
Forgiveness releases old hurt to make room for new joy!
Join me in prayer today:
Father,
As we begin our day let our eyes look to You. Let our hearts hear Your voice. Help us release our pride and our selfishness. Bring healing into the hurting places. Forgiveness is hard. Your Son paid a hard cost. He took the punishment upon Himself. The wages of death that we earned were placed upon His shoulders. Oh, that we could even come close to understanding Your goodness. Lord, if you find unforgiveness within our hearts today help us to examine and release, trusting that freedom awaits us all. In Jesus name, Amen
~ Jodie