I did it!
I said “NO”….well kinda
The text message came in the morning. “Are you busy? Can we meet for coffee? I’d like to talk to you about…”
Busy? Who me?? Never! But there was the mention of coffee! And this tea drinking turned coffee loving girl could not resist good coffee with a sweet friend. So off I went!
Armed with the power of the word, “NO”.
( MMMM….caramel macchiato! )
We sit, we talk and catch up. Are we catching up or is she buttering me up for the question she wants me to say Yes to? I’ve used this tactic myself so of course I understand how it works. (Yes, that was a confession! Now in my prayer time with God I will work that out.)
Finally, and I think I am the one who says, “So, what did you want to talk to me about?”
The question comes and it’s on the tip of my tongue….NO, say NO! You just completed a similar job that ran you ragged last year. There was turmoil and hours spent in disappointment and drama! You dreaded almost every moment. Why won’t the word slip out of my mouth? Because!
Because I love this person, she is a friend.
Because I want to be asked, I like to participate, be included.
Because I could do it…I would just be risking my sanity!
So, I did it! Well kinda! I said, “I just don’t think this is a good idea for me. I just turned over a similar responsibility. This is not my strong suit and I don’t think I should add anything to my plate. I’m not sure this is the best yes for me.”
And there you have it! I almost said the word.
The word that is NOT A CUSS WORD…NO!
Lysa TerKeaurst says that if an assignment cause you to ponder the 3 D’s it is likely not a best yes. The 3 D’s?
My heart was telling me that for this assignment there would be at least two of the 3 D’s. And that was enough for me. While I am still working on when to say no and when to say yes (remember I have admitting I have the disease to please) I am in therapy! I am not yet cured. But this week alone my therapy has helped me to see:
- The importance of unbroken companionship with God!
- The power of prayer before answering!
- The treasure of seeking God’s path for me!
Are you like me and having trouble with saying No? No is not an ugly word. Especially when that answer will open space for a best yes answer! God has a so much in store for us but we don’t have to do everything. He designed us all to work together!
Read 1 Corinthians 12:14-20
14 Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many.
15 Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? 18 But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. 19 If they were all one part, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
You do have a special assignment. Don’t miss it because that little, two letter word that you feel in your heart will not slip seven inches up and out of your mouth!
Seeking His wisdom, journey with me~ Jodie