Earlier this month I admitted I need help for a dreaded disease that I am convinced is an epidemic…The Disease To Please! (See http://wp.me/p4UzTg-bj) Now I am in therapy…Best Yes Therapy! And this is the best therapy ever! Because every week I am seeing positive results.
In my admission blog, “Help, I have a Disease”, I revealed that one of my greatest weaknesses is my desire to please my children. I shared a story about my daughter and I and I will give a quick recap just in case you don’t have time to click over.
My daughter made a request that I did not have the time to fulfill.
I said “yes” anyway. I put on my Wonder Woman cape and raced out to please!
It was an epic fail; no one was pleased.
So why share this again. Well, I learned something that day. And I learned more in my therapy sessions with my Bible and The Best Yes book by Lisa TerKeaurst.
I made a poor choice driven by the fuel of my people pleasing disease. I became upset with myself but then I examined and applied what I had learned. And here are the positive changes I have made since I discovered that my Wonder Woman tactics make me a worn out women!
After seeing that my poor choice had rotten consequences I resolved to make a plan of action for avoiding this same scenario happening again.
- First, I admitted my poor choice and then I examined why it did not make sense to say yes to the original request.
- Next I predetermined how I would handle my answer if the request came again. This particular question (Mom, will you bring food to school) arises often throughout a school year.
- Last, I shared with my daughter, you know, the one I have a soft spot for…I shared with her what days I could say yes on and what days I would not say yes on again. Hopefully this will make it easier for her to understand when she attempts to bat those eyes at me or send me sweet emogis that are designed to nudge at my heartstrings and I have to make the Best Yes and say…..No.
Yes, I’m in therapy and I adore Lysa’s new book, but greater yet I treasure the Living Word. And the two together are helping to rejuvenate this worn out woman!
Allow me to share one powerful statement within the book and two scripture verses that your heart will treasure:
“We must not confuse the command to love with the disease to please.”
“This is my command: Love each other.” John 15:17
“…we are not trying to please people, but God, who tests our hearts.” 1 Thes. 2-4
He alone, girls. He alone.
Thank you for walking along on this journey,